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For immigrant women on the Eastside, Turkcha is here to help.

In Turkey, it is not uncommon during Muharram — the first month of the Islamic calendar — for people to visit their friends and neighbors and give them a bowl of dessert.

The dessert in question — ashure, or Noah’s Pudding as it is also known — is made with grains, dried fruits and nuts and is traditionally made in large quantities so it can be shared with others.

And while people in Turkey wouldn’t think twice if their neighbor came by their home to drop off a bowl of ashure, the same can’t be said if it happened in the states, simply because it’s not a tradition we have here.

In Turkish culture, ashure is made in large quantities so it can be shared with friends, family, neighbors and more. Photo courtesy of Dilek Anderson

In Turkish culture, ashure is made in large quantities so it can be shared with friends, family, neighbors and more. Photo courtesy of Dilek Anderson

But on the Eastside, the Turkish Women Charity and Aid Organization (Turkcha) in Bellevue has held an annual ashure event for the last few years to share the dessert and Turkish tradition with the community.

Turkcha was founded by Bellevue resident Dilek Anderson, who immigrated to the area from Turkey. One of its purposes is to share the Turkish culture with the local community. This includes holding various events throughout the year such as Iftar dinners during the Islamic observance of Ramadan and the ashure dessert sharing event.

The latter was recently held on Nov. 17 at the Peter Kirk Community Center in Kirkland.

“It was a very great event,” Anderson said.

The event was open to the public and in addition to serving the dessert, which was prepared by Turkcha board members, there were activities for kids and a few speakers to share about the dessert.

Tulin Yildiz was one of the speakers, giving attendees a crash course on the history of ashure, its place in Turkish culture and the dessert’s origins in history.

She said the dish is a symbol of blessing and sharing.

The story goes that when Noah’s ark (yes, that Noah) came to rest on Mount Ararat, his family celebrated with a special dish. But because food rations were running low, they combined everything together for a pudding that could feed everyone on the vessel.

Anderson said the different ingredients, which may not seem like they go together, symbolize the diversity of the community as well as the unity formed when they come together.

“They are one,” she said.

Ashure is a dessert that contains grains, dried fruits and nuts. Photo courtesy of Dilek Anderson

Ashure is a dessert that contains grains, dried fruits and nuts. Photo courtesy of Dilek Anderson

Turkcha treasurer Aysun Eskici said growing up, her mother would cook ashure and they would distribute it throughout their neighborhood.

“We miss our traditions,” she said about the organization’s purpose to share Turkish culture with the community. “We all miss it.”

Turkcha’s second purpose, according to its website, is to “support all women who live around Seattle, especially those who came to the USA from other countries, and to help them in adjusting to their new homes and to not feel alone.”

This is because, as an immigrant, Anderson realized that many immigrant women in the area share similar concerns and deal with similar issues. So about five years ago, she founded Turkcha.

“When we move here, it’s hard for us to adjust,” Eskici said.

She added that it can also be difficult for some women to find work in the field they were in back home for a number of reasons: They could be in the country on their husband’s work visa, which may not allow them to work. They have no work experience in the United States. And the experience they do have may not translate to jobs stateside.

For example, Anderson was a lawyer in Turkey but she can’t practice law here. And Eskici was an architect back home and cannot work in this country either. Yildiz, who moved here from Dubai, was a mathematician back home and is able to work tutoring students (because as Lindsay Lohan a la “Mean Girls” once said, “[math is] the same in every country”).

In its efforts to support immigrant women, Turkcha hosts regular events and activities throughout the Eastside ranging from American accent workshops to practicing using local public transportation. There are also guest speakers who share their experiences as immigrants and how they adjusted and thrived in their new homes.

The organization also hosts activities such as yoga and Zumba classes to give women an opportunity to just spend time with each other — so, as its purpose states, they don’t feel so alone.

Anderson said it can be easy for women to lose their self confidence and by getting together for these events and helping each other, it shows participants that there are others who share their experiences and it can help make the transitions in their new home easier.

Because, let’s face it, moving to a new place is never easy.

You most likely won’t know where anything is and it will take some time to figure out where things like the grocery stores and good restaurants are. And you probably won’t know many people (if anyone). So there’s the whole daunting task of making new friends, which is not always easy — especially as an adult. Because when was the last time you saw a grown up ask another grown up if they wanted to be friends? It’s not the same as walking up to someone on the school playground and asking if they want to play during recess.

But when you’re moving from a different country, finding where you fit in your new community can be even more difficult.

Fortunately, Turkcha is here to help with that. And even more fortunate, sometimes, they come bearing desserts.

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