Murdered Kirkland mother was victim of domestic violence multiple times

Amy Rene Gang Hargrove, 28, was found dead at her Kirkland home on Jan. 6. Hargrove died of strangulation and the case is being investigated as a homicide. - Courtesy of Facebook
Amy Rene Gang Hargrove, 28, was found dead at her Kirkland home on Jan. 6. Hargrove died of strangulation and the case is being investigated as a homicide.
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Police are still investigating the recent homicide of a Kirkland mother of four.

But the woman may have foreseen the details of her death long before -- a speculation outlined in a 2012 petition for a protection order against an ex-boyfriend.

According to the King County Medical Examiner’s Office, Amy Rene Gang Hargrove, 28, was murdered on or before Jan. 6 by manual strangulation at her mother’s home, the place where she was staying.

Hargrove’s mother found her in one of the bedroom’s at the house, located in the 9400 block of NE 130th Place, at around 3 p.m. when she called police. Hargrove’s 3-year-old was with her mother when she called police, according to Murray.

Kirkland police have a person of interest, a man who shared a child with the victim.

“The detectives are pretty confident that if it wasn’t him, it was someone who knew her,” said Lt. Mike Murray with the Kirkland Police Department, adding that they’ve interviewed the man twice. “It wasn’t some random assault.”

The victim had a protection order against one of her ex-boyfriends at the time of her death. It was to expire in May 2014 and was the second one filed since 2012.

In the 2012 petition, Hargrove explains that on March 27, 2012 her ex-boyfriend, who she shares one child with, threw her across the kitchen by her neck. When she called him a cab, he allegedly stole her debit card and emptied out $360. In her statement, she wrote that her then boyfriend physically abused her for three years and also during her pregnancy. She claims he raped her multiples times and forced her to have sex with his family member.

“Multiple times he would pull his guns out and point them at me, then himself, then me again,” Hargrove said in her petition.

Hargrove explains that she believes she lost custody of her two other children because they were in the care of her ex-boyfriend in June 2010 when a high-speed chase with police ensued.

From Bellevue to Lynnwood, the ex-boyfriend sped up to 120 mph with her children in the car. In a police pit maneuver, a tactic used to stop a high-speed vehicle, the car was flipped.

“There were about 20 cop cars at the scene when I arrived from work,” Hargrove wrote. “He was driving in and out of traffic. My children … are ok but I believe this case … I lost them due to this.”

Threatening suicide and murder a week before their child was born, Hargrove pleaded with the courts in the petition that she wants her children to be safe.

“He has no control and leaving him, I thought I would lose my life,” she wrote. “ … He wants revenge on me because I left him. And he will do anything to get revenge after I file this order. A piece of paper isn’t going to save my life when he finally gets me, but at least you will know who killed me.”

The Reporter is not naming any of Hargrove’s ex-boyfriends, as charges have not yet been filed in her murder.

“I just need my children safe,” Hargrove wrote. “I want them to know how much I love them.”

In her most recent petition, she states the man has violated the protection order numerous times “even though he was in jail the majority of the order.”

According to Hargrove, her ex-boyfriend never completed the treatment courses and that she still lives in great fear on a daily basis.

Hargrove has a long history of abusive relationships with one dating back to 2003, according to a 2004 declaration by Hargrove’s mother, which was written in a custody battle.

In an attempt to gain custody of Hargrove’s oldest child, her mother explains Hargrove’s troubled past, which consisted of a young pregnancy, drug abuse, emotional issues and a boyfriend who pleaded guilty to assaulting Hargrove.

In the documents, Hargrove’s mother explains that she lived with her boyfriend at the time “until it culminated in such a serious assault against Amy that she could have been killed.”

Her then-boyfriend is not the father of the child in the custody battle.

Murray couldn’t confirm where the children are staying, but speculated they were with their grandmother, Hargrove’s mother.

The Reporter attempted to contact Hargrove’s mother but was unsuccessful.

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